Between the Sheets

Guys, if period talk makes you cringe you might want to take a miss on this one. This blog is for the girls but guys are welcome to read as well if they aren’t all squeamish about “girl stuff.”

So ladies, that special day comes along, whether it is your honeymoon (like me) or a special anniversary, or maybe even the first time you plan to have sex with a new partner, and your period comes. Aaagh! Yes, my period came on my honeymoon! And early too! Damn thing.

Now, that doesn’t mean you have to curl up in a corner and suffer. Here are some options to consider:

1. Get over the mess. Some guys don’t care and some girls don’t. So, while you may want to skip the oral (or not - that’s a personal choice. You might have a really light period. Either way, consuming menstrual fluid is not dangerous to your health), any other form of sex is fine. Messy, but fine. Use an old beach towel to protect your sheets. Or move to the shower or bath tub.

This is not my choice. While I am not “ashamed” of my period or anything like that it’s just not for me.

2. Plan ahead. Especially, if it is for something like a honeymoon that you know is coming. If you are on birth control you have several options. Rather than re-writing it all here I’m going to direct you to another blog who has written about it better than I could. Read this blog from Thewelltimedperiod .

I’ve been told that birth control can also be an option for those who are not already using it. However, no matter what you choose to do, if birth control is part of the plan, talk to your doctor about it first!!! Messing around with birth control first before consulting your doctor is dangerous.

3. Internal protection. There are several internal protection methods that do not include tampons. Many women rely on them every single day. One of these is called Instead .

These little cups are inserted vaginally and fits over the cervix. It collects the blood in the little cup and you change it as needed. And it is supposed to be great for having sex with your period. There are about a zillion reviews in the link about so I highly encourage you to check it out.

So, because I’m not fond of messiness and because I can’t be organized enough to plan ahead, I’ll be trying Instead. If there’s enough interest I’ll let you know how it worked. If not, I’ll keep it to myself.

But remember that there are always options, especially when it comes to sex!

Home movies have come a long way from the days of yesteryear. You can document any of the important activities of your life from your kids basketball games to your sex life. Yes, I said sex.

Now I know that a lot of people are hesitant about putting themselves in a movies or in pictures in a sexual way for fear of it getting “out there”. “Out there” could mean on the internet or it could just mean in the wrong hands but that’s still a scary thought and if your instincts tell you not to then don’t. Your instincts are there for a reason. But if you are with a partner that you know you can trust then home porn movies can be a lot of fun.

My new hubby and I bought ourselves a digital camera that makes little mini-movies and we had fun with that on our first night at the hotel (which has a great view of the lake and windows all along the outer wall). We got a great oral clip that I hadn’t imagined would be so sexy. I’m looking forward to playing more tonite. And no, you can’t see!

A couple of hints for home movies in the bedroom:
~ lighting is important. Keep the light behind the camera. Low lighting can be sexy and can hide little flaws that you don’t really want to see but won’t give you great details.
~ if you don’t want to take the chance of anyone seeing it, film it, watch it together and then delete it.
~ if you want to save it for future viewing, I’d suggest downloading it to your computer and hiding it really well.

Have fun!

Making out is fun and one of the greatest parts of being a couple. Seriously - when was the last time you had a good make out session with your partner? I’m not talking about kissing that led to foreplay that led to sex. I’m talking about a good old make out session with every ounce of your passion being shared and enjoyed mutually.

Making out is especially great if you do it at the spur of the moment in a place where it is least expected. Next time you’re at the mall with your partner, pull them into a hallway or behind a display and give them a long, wet, lingering kiss. Then continue your shopping. They’ll be thinking about that kiss for the rest of the day and the next time you’re alone they’ll be more than eager to continue it.

Or, try some more extended making out. Go out to a drive in or a park and make out like you did when you were a teenager. Go crazy. But no below the waist! Save that for later!

There’s a reason we were always so hot and horny as teenagers! Multiple and extended making out sessions had us so worked up that our hormones were always revved up and we were pretty much always ready to go. So get revved up again with frequent make out sessions!

Ok - this isn’t a rabbit - it’s a dolphin - but it does the same thing as the rabbit toy that I bought for my honeymoon. Yay! My fiance hasn’t been told about it yet but he’ll find it during the honeymoon and I won’t post this until then so as you read this we might actually be playing with it at this very moment!

This is a great toy for couples because it has so many uses. The woman can use it by herself or as he watches (a little mutual masturbation can be a lot of fun!). Slip a bullet inside the dolphin or the rabbit and then slide two fingers into the ring. You can use to stimulate your clit by itself or you can give yourself some finger penetration and clitoral stimulation at the same time.

Now, give it to your guy and let him do the same thing to you. Finger play is great as foreplay or by itself.

Alternately, it can be used as a pseuod-cockring. Now, this won’t have the exact same effect as a cockring because this is very stretchy but if he’s never worn a cockring before and you’ve thought about it this could be a nice introduction. It can be worn two ways. Slide it over his cock with the dolphin or rabbit on the top and you’ll get stimulation on your clit as he slides inside you. This is great for girl on top position because you can control where the vibrations are hitting you. Or, if you want to drive him really mad, turn it around so the dolphin or rabbit is on the bottom. He’ll get his balls tickled and he’s gonna come hard so watch out.

So, that’s one of the things in my Tickle Trunk for my honeymoon!

Well, the wedding is over and I’m ready to move on to the honeymoon!

We had a great wedding. A sweet little old church (and I do mean old!) in a museum in my home town. It’s part of the display that our museum puts on and include an old school house, an old train station, a black smith, and a general store. The kids that were there had a great time exploring them and we got some great pictures!

Now, the honeymoon. For most people it’s not a big deal because let’s face it - most people don’t wait for the honeymoon to engage in sexual activities. So how do you make the honeymoon special?

Here are a few ideas for modern newlyweds:

- Focus on intimacy. Put everything else like kids, work, and other people out of your minds. Be with each other.
- Touch. If you’ve been together a long time, sometimes we forget about touch. Give each other a massage or go get massages together. Enjoy the sensuality of water - have a bath or a shower together or go skinny dipping. Use some body oils.
- Try something new. A new position, watch an erotic movie, listen to an erotic story together. Get some toys!
- Have a new non-sexual experience together. Go bungee climbing, white water rafting, or rock climing together. Anything neither of you have done before.

Remember, just because you’ve already gotten intimate in the sack doesn’t mean you can make your honeymoon special.

I found this Jane Mag piece at Nerve . It’s about breasts and supposed to show women what real breasts look like so that we can get over the idea that not all breasts look like model’s or porn star’s breasts.

I’m glad to see somthing like this in the media - especially in a magazine like Jane that is marketed towards younge women. Women do need to be proud of their bodies and realized that they come in all different sizes. Not just breasts but all of our bodies. No one is really perfect - if you look long enough you are bound to find a flaw.

I’m not sure that this portofolio quite hit the mark (read some of the comments by the women whose breasts were photographed) but if you’re attracted by real women’s bodies, you’ll enjoy this. Breasts are beautiful in all shapes.

Here’s a big shocker - two thirds of women fantasize about group sex! Can you believe it? Well, I’m sure you can but there appears to be some people that find it appalling that women fantasize about things like group sex, sex with other women, and being kidnapped!

It’s articles like this that make women think that their fantasies are wrong, that somehow there is something wrong with them because of the things that turn them on. Is it wrong to think of having sex with someone other than your spouse? How about Brad Pitt? He’s the guy women fantasize about most often. Or better yet, Angelina Jolie - the woman that women fantasize about most often. And ohmigod, what if they actually masturbate thinking these perverse ideas? They must be completely disfunctional.

The truth is that women fantasize just as much as men do and it’s not always about candel light and the knight on the white steed that sweeps them off their feet. Sometimes they dream about huge cocks and at night they dream about wet pussies. It doesn’t mean they are perverts or clandestine women. It means they are human. Fantasies are normal - even for the most pristine of women.

Ladies and women - fantasize freely because no one can tell you what is ok to have in your head!

When men have a fantasy woman - and let’s face it, most men do - does it cause more harm than good to a relationship? Most women would vehemently answer, “Yes!” But it isn’t always harmful.

First you have to consider the two people in the relationship - how does each party feel about fantasies? Fantasy lovers? Does it make them feel inadequate? Does it make your wife feel like she could never measure up to the J. Lo in your brain? If that’s how your fantasy woman makes her feel than you definately have a problem.

First and foremost, whether you are a guy or a girl, your job is to make your partner feel like he or she is the most desireable and sexy thing on the planet. And if not on the planet, at the very least to you. They should know that when your hands touch them, when you’re kissing them, when you’re making love, there is no one else but them on your mind. If they don’t believe that then it is definately time to put away the pictures, the videos, the movies or whatever you might have.

Ladies, this can apply to you, too. Do all those hot and spicy romance books you read make him doubt himself? What do you mean you don’t know. Ask him! Guys don’t usually volunteer that information. You have to pry it out of him. Some guys feel like they can never measure up to the hot bods on the cover and the expert lovers in your books so they stop trying. If you think this might even remotely be a possibility, put the books away and make your own hot romance. Write a letter or a fantasy and tell him that this is better than any story you’ve ever read. Every one needs some ego stroking - guys and girls!

Now, some people know that fantasies are just fantasies. They know that it has nothing to do with them. My fiance’s fantasy girl is Alyssa Milano - there are a lot of Alyssa Milano pics on our computer. And I’m fine with that. She has nothing on me - you know why? ‘Cause she’s not here and she’s never going to be. And even if she was, I know that he’d pick me over her any day because I love him. I have several fantasy guys and a couple fantasy girls and he just indulges my mind. If they are porn stars he purposely rents videos with them in it. LOL - he knows its all a game and when it comes to real life he’s the only one I really want.

So, it’s all a matter of perspective. If that fantasy person is making your partner feel unworthy or unattractive it’s time to let them go and focus on the person that is with you. If fantasy people are just another sexual game, then have fun with it. But always, always, remember that there are two of you in the relationship and you both have to be ok with whatever is turning you on.

I read this article at Nerve.com today. The author said about blogging, “When it’s handed to me — and to the rest of the world — it’s hard to find it particularly appealing.” And I was kind of surprised.

I like that fact that you can find out (sometimes, because let’s face it, not everyone has a blog, although it seems like it sometimes) things about a person before you get emotionally invested. I like that I can find out if he’s got a fetish for animal-love before I actually start to like a guy. And I like that I can find out that he’s really close to his mom.

I also like the fact that he can find out about me and if he still shows up it means that he’s ready to deal with the fact that I have a couple of kids, and write porn/erotica, and am a little obsessive about oral sex. In fact, my fiance read my blog on Windows Live something or other before he met me. At the time I’d done a 101 things about me blog entry that told a lot of things about me that might have scared other people. And he still came to our first date. In fact, he constantly amazed by saying things like, “Oh right - the shrimp and steak,” before I even ordered. “How did you know?” I’d ask. “It was on your 101.” Right. Ok, it was a little unsettling at first, but after the first few times it was flattering. I mean, this man actually took the time to pay attention to every single one of those 101 things about me and remembered them when it was appropriate!

So, is blogging and dating counterproductive? I don’t think so. Personally, I think that if you can’t read someone’s blog and still be willing to see them then you likely wouldn’t have lasted past the first few dates anyway. And, on top of that, it’s important to remember that just because you read someone’s blog doesn’t mean you know them. It just means that you know about the online personality that they’ve chosen to reveal. It’s only a partial picture.

You didn’t really think that I was all about sex just because that’s what I write about here … did you?

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Think love letters are old fashioned and outdated? Think again. Lover letters aren’t just the mushy ramblings of the past. Love letters today can be anything you want them to be.

Some time after my fiance and I got together I wrote him a love letter for his birthday. But it certainly wasn’t anything he could share with anyone. It was naughty and spicy and he loved it!

Love letters can be a great way to show someone what a great time you had with them. Love letters can also point out the things that you loved so that you can be sure they’ll do it again and again. They can make your partner feel appreciated and important.

Don’t be afrai to say a few naughty words. As far as I’m concerned, the naughtier the better! Tell them what you want to do again. Let them know how good they felt. Describe something you particularly enjoyed in explicit detail.

And love letters aren’t just for girls. Give it a try guys. Even if your spelling is bad and your grammar sucks, I can gaurentee that she won’t even notice those things if you are sincere. Some girls might feel uncomfortable if you tell her to her face how great her tongue felt but reading it in a letter can make her a little more at ease. And she’ll be that much more likely to try to duplicate the act!

Write a love letter. Tell your lover how you feel.

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On a completely unrelated not I’ve put up two new stories for Masturbation Month on my other blog.
Read:
Office Masturbation - part one
Office Masturbation - part two
These are the beginning of what I hope will become a great jilling/jacking off series!

I love bums. Bums are great and even if they’re not “picture perfect” they can be admired. Take a look at the vintage photo - wonderful photography - great bum - even if not by today’s standards.

So, Autumn’s Top Ten Wonderful Things About Bums:

10. Everyone has one. So, because everyone has one no one should be ashamed of their’s and should be able to show it off randomly in a great pair of jeans, skinny dipping, or in a bathing suit.

9. Everyone has different tastes so there is someone out there that will love your bum.

8. Bums are fun to touch. They’re soft and mushy and are great to hold on to when…well, whenever you please really!

7. Bums make a wonderful sound when slapped by a bare hand, a paddle, or a riding crop.

6. Bums are very sensitive. Running your finger tips over a bum can send chills through the recipients spine! In a good way.

5. Bums are cute on kids, animals, women, and men.

4. Baby bums are the most beautiful things on the face of the earth.

3. Bums make great pillows.

2. Songs about bums are fun! Listen and see the video!

1. Bums are the gateway to heaven’s entrance!

Enjoy a bum and be well!

Porn isn’t just for those guys hiding out in a dark room wanking off and obsessing about women they will never have. Ok, ya, those guys are still there but most of them are harmless. But more and more couples are watching porn these days and loving it. Believe it or not, there was a time when, in order to rent porn or buy porn you had to go into a dank store at the end of the street everyone was afraid to walk down. Inside you might see a few guys who’d look furtively at you while they scoured the aisles for something new.

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Wearing a blindfold willingly implies complete and total faith. And when you’re wearing one in the bedroom you REALLY need to know you can trust the one you’re with. You trust him or her to know where your boundaries are. You trust him or her not to cross them - maybe push them a little, but not completely over step them. You trust him or her to treat you the way you want and need to be treated.

That being said, imagine the possiblities…

Blind Faith
by Autumn Seave

I couldn’t see anything beyond the blindfold but the smell of the leather was intoxicating. My flesh tingled in anticipation. And not just for moments but for many minutes. I didn’t know what to expect - I could only hope for his touch.

And then it came - barely.

A cinnamon scented finger traced the curve of my breast, my waist, my hips, my thighs. Then, full hands upon me in an oily seduction. Kneading my flesh, his voice pampered my mind.

“Patience, my pet.”

A pinch of a nipple, then fingers over my mound. Then a tongue, burning a trail over my belly and down to that sacred place. Fleeting licks.

Then only the cinnamon scent linger.

And I waited, again, with blind faith.

I have never understood why so many people are afraid to be naked. Being naked is the most natural thing in the world. So what if your thighs are too thick? So are mine and about 75% of the rest of the population. No one cares but you! Saggy boobs - be proud of them. You’ve gone through a lot of life and experience to get to the saggy boob stage! Bodies change and you can’t have the body you had when you were 18 forever. In fact, you really only get that body for about a year and then things start changing.

After your teens your body metabolizes food differently. That means your thighs get thicker, your breasts are fuller, and you hips widen. It happens a little bit more every year and it happens whether or not you have children. Some people’s bodies change slower than other but in the end none of us look like we did when we were 18. The sooner we accept that fact the sooner we can get back to loving our lives, loving our bodies, and getting naked.

Are you worried about what your partner thinks of your body? Stop - right now. Because he doesn’t care as long as you are still getting naked with him and as long as you’re letting him look. Ok - there are some guys that do care and hopefully that’s not the guy you are with. But if it is you need to remember that there are others out there that would love you for who you are, no matter what you look like and then you need to decide whether you want to be with the one your with or whether its time to find someone who wants to be with you as you are. I’m not telling you to leave your man if he doesn’t thrill over your body - I’m just saying love your body because you know there’s nothing wrong with it, not because of what anyone else thinks.

Now, maybe you’re wondering why I put that picture up there. Take a look at it. What do you see? Nice breasts, flat tummy, likely a sweet ass? Maybe. But I see someone that needs to eat a couple burgers. She’s too skinny for my taste. That doesn’t mean you’re wrong. It just means we have different tastes. I’m not attracted to skinny women and I’m not attracted to skinny men. Just not my thing. Nobody is a perfect 10 to everyone that they come across.

So, get naked and enjoy it. Vaccuum the living room on a hot day (my mom does and she’s in her sixties!). Sleep naked (because if you’re not already you’re really missing something). Go skinny dipping.

Get naked and be well!